In Virtue/Vice, Dr. Christine B. Whelan blogs about news, books, scientific and psychological research and her general musings about virtue and vice in our everyday lives.
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Love and Trust Online
Trust is a crucial element of a successful relationship, experts tell us. But sometimes, as President Ronald Reagan said, “trust but verify.”
According to a new nationally representative study of nearly a thousand British married couples, nearly half the time, at least one member of the couple is snooping on the other’s internet and email activities.
Reports PsyBlog, respondents told researchers it was unacceptable if
- their partner fell in love online (90%)
- had cybersex with someone else (84%)
- flirted with someone else (69%)
- or communicated relationship troubles with someone else (70%)
And perhaps unsurprisingly, women were more likely to be concerned about potential online transgressions, and more likely to do the snooping.
Most common ways to snoop?
- Reading emails
- Reading text messages
- Checking web browser history and trolling the cache
Now, remember, this might be a vast under-reporting, because if you’re stealthy enough to do all this snooping, you’re clever enough not to go telling people-even researchers-about the details.
So are you being watched by someone who claims to love and trust you? Probably. Does that weird you out? Join the club.