"When our first child was born, my husband said, 'Now I have a son to avenge my family.' He named our baby boy Rambo."
I usually associate the birth of a baby with fuzzy booties, not machine guns. But I was in a southern area of the Philippines called Mindanao, where vendettas out of Sylvester Stallone movies happen -- a lot.
I was talking to a woman named May; she'd married into a family that was haunted by the years-old murder of a grandfather. May's mother-in-law couldn't read or write, but would send audiotapes to her son when the couple lived outside the country. "She'd say they needed money for guns. She'd say, 'Come back to the Philippines and kill these people!'"
In Mindanao, three groups -- Christians, Muslims, and indigenous people -- have suffered for decades at each other's hands. All three groups have valid grievances rooted in the area's seriously troubled history. But at this point, learning to get along -- to stop the massacres, abductions, bombs, and hijackings -- is pretty much the only option.