Comments on: New Years and Still Single?

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 02:20:39 +0000

What I would really like to know is, is it really that much better to “have someone special to kiss after the ball drops”? I am single and 25, and sure, NYE was sort of lonely, but one reason I am still single is I don’t think a relationship is a blissful cure-all! If you just had a fight or something the last thing you’d want to do is cuddle around on NYE! I think both single people and married people have hard times and fun times, and it’s not like married is just de facto better. So maybe the “positive change” some people need for the new year is not to join catholicmatch, but to become more comfortable with who they are by serving others!

I always enjoy your work, Christine!! Very thought provoking!

By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:58:53 +0000

I think that this article is more intended to help than to be a negative spin on the single life. I think that the delivery could be better and more broad given that developing a core social group as you get older is not so easy, and most of us have used on-line dating to varying degrees of luck.

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 15:36:27 +0000

Jessica and Kristy M, hang in there! And even if you don’t find “the one” online, just getting out there helps.

And Chris, for more specific advice about how to meet people, talk about tough issues on a date, etc. do a few searches in the archive of this column: http://www.bustedhalo.com/author/christine-b-whelan/ I’ve been writing it for nearly five years now–single, engaged and married! In particular, here are a few of my favorite dating advice pieces: http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-turn-your-cablight-on/ and http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-30/

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 02:12:40 +0000

I fail to see how this article is in any way helpful. It is so easy for married people to look upon us poor, lonely singles and dispense the most empty platitudes of ‘Oh, I’ve been there’ – how difficult those years of parties must have been for you! And such advice as ‘go out’ or ‘try online dating’ – purely revolutionary! How did all the single people ever survive before these 8 paragraphs of wisdom? Clearly, with God, all things truly are possible – including this getting cleared for publication.

By: Kristy M.

Kristy M. — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 23:26:12 +0000

Thanks for the wonderful well timed article Christine! I just might think about joining CatholicMatch.com myself…time for some positive change in the New Year, right?!? :)

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 21:51:32 +0000

Why is just as I start to get all Debbie Downer about spending another NYE single, this article pops up on my twitter feed? Love it!