http://bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-114-breaking-the-unwritten-latina-rules an online magazine for spiritual seekers Mon, 13 Feb 2012 15:56:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-114-breaking-the-unwritten-latina-rules/comment-page-1#comment-9809 Vanessa Gonzalez Kraft Tue, 20 Jul 2010 00:52:16 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=12191#comment-9809 When I was 19 I worked a summer in a shelter for undocumented women and children. Most of the women were from Central America and their favorite question to ask me was if I was married and had children. I kept telling them, "No, I'm 19." But that didn't seem to phase them. Then they realized that I did not know how to cook and took it upon themselves to teach me how to cook so that I could get a man, get married, and have kids. It was a funny experience and one that really taught me just how different my experience is being first-generation Mexican-American. When I was 19 I worked a summer in a shelter for undocumented women and children. Most of the women were from Central America and their favorite question to ask me was if I was married and had children. I kept telling them, “No, I’m 19.” But that didn’t seem to phase them. Then they realized that I did not know how to cook and took it upon themselves to teach me how to cook so that I could get a man, get married, and have kids. It was a funny experience and one that really taught me just how different my experience is being first-generation Mexican-American.

]]> http://bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-114-breaking-the-unwritten-latina-rules/comment-page-1#comment-9802 Fernando Duran Mon, 19 Jul 2010 04:18:22 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=12191#comment-9802 Ladies, senoritas. Hermanitas en Cristo. I can only say from reading this article that you are right and that this pressure you receive from your family members is only a gift from God. See it not as a burden, but as way to accept new opportunities that otherwise you Ladies would be quick to reject. If the next man you meet is interested in you for some odd reason, it wouldn't hurt to get to know them and go on a few dates. On the other hand, if you find someone attractive don‚Äôt be afraid to FLIRT a little and let the guy you think he is worth TALKING TO. You are right again that this is a new generation that not only calls for different times in our lives to consider marriage, but also calls for a new way of communication. Lets face it, we no longer live in the 1950 where the guys open doors for you or throw down their expensive jackets for you to cross a puddle. So honesty and clear sentences will be our new way of showing chivalry. Speaking your mind and owning your feelings with the addition of controlling our ever so raging sexual urges; because as we all very know sex is an addition/bonus, not the foundation. So Ladies, say yes to new opportunities. Never forget your morals and always strive for divine LOVE. Ladies, senoritas. Hermanitas en Cristo. I can only say from reading this article that you are right and that this pressure you receive from your family members is only a gift from God. See it not as a burden, but as way to accept new opportunities that otherwise you Ladies would be quick to reject. If the next man you meet is interested in you for some odd reason, it wouldn’t hurt to get to know them and go on a few dates. On the other hand, if you find someone attractive don‚Äôt be afraid to FLIRT a little and let the guy you think he is worth TALKING TO.
You are right again that this is a new generation that not only calls for different times in our lives to consider marriage, but also calls for a new way of communication. Lets face it, we no longer live in the 1950 where the guys open doors for you or throw down their expensive jackets for you to cross a puddle. So honesty and clear sentences will be our new way of showing chivalry. Speaking your mind and owning your feelings with the addition of controlling our ever so raging sexual urges; because as we all very know sex is an addition/bonus, not the foundation.
So Ladies, say yes to new opportunities. Never forget your morals and always strive for divine LOVE.

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