Response to: Intra-Office Dating

As someone who has dated people that he has worked with, I speak from experience. It’s the best of times and the worst of times.

Here’s the upside:

  • Smooches during the day are always good.
  • You always have someone to go to lunch with.
  • Work schedule conflicts are minimal.
  • Someone understands your plight when you complain about the boss.

Of course there’s always the downside:

  • Need to always look good at work.
  • Never get any work done because you’re daydreaming about what she’s doing.
  • She tells people about how romantic you are and the guys think you’re a wuss.
  • Getting that massage from your honey gets dirty looks from the boss.

Seriously, it was really hard to stay focused at work while I was in the relationship, and even harder to work with the person I was dating after the break-up.

However, if you’re in a committed relationship, working together for a common goal can be wonderful. Marion and I have both found that writing our Soul Mates column for this website has enhanced our relationship. Writing about our disagreements helps us sort things out sometimes too. So working together actually helps us from time to time.

Any other thoughts on this? Do you have a response? Post it below in the comments.

Mike Hayes

Mike Hayes

Mike co-founded BustedHalo.com in 2001. Currently, Mike is the director of campus ministry at Canisius College in Buffalo, New York. A frequent speaker on ministering to young adults, Mike is the author of "Googling God: The Religious Landscape of People in Their 20s and 30s" and "Loving Work: A Spiritual Guide to Finding the Work We Love and Bringing Love to the Work We Do."