Is It Sinful for A Man with Erectile Disfunction to Bring His Wife to Climax Manually Or Orally?

Q: Sometimes I cannot keep an erection long enough for my wife to climax. Is it a sin if I manually or orally complete her climax? Is it a sin if my wife manually or orally completes my climax? The older I get (I am 71) the more often this happens. I love my wife and could not see a day I would not like to try to make love to her.

Not every single sexual act, per se, need be procreative, but within a “sexual session,” if you will, there needs to be “openness” to procreative activity. In this case, you are in fact being open to procreation, but your age and your physical limitations prevent the pregnancy naturally. Normally, these acts would only be used as “foreplay” to pro-creative sexual activity ending with male ejaculation into the female. But in this case, that need not happen for obvious reasons.

So there can certainly be oral stimulation throughout sexual activity within any marriage. The larger question for most would be if one is using oral sex simply to avoid pregnancy, in order to achieve orgasms, then one is limiting their sexual union to merely give arousal rather than intimacy.

Enjoy the time you have with your wife and may God continue to bless your love for one another.

For more information on this refer to this article I wrote on BustedHalo some time ago.

Mike Hayes

Mike Hayes

Mike co-founded BustedHalo.com in 2001. Currently, Mike is the director of campus ministry at Canisius College in Buffalo, New York. A frequent speaker on ministering to young adults, Mike is the author of "Googling God: The Religious Landscape of People in Their 20s and 30s" and "Loving Work: A Spiritual Guide to Finding the Work We Love and Bringing Love to the Work We Do."