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Neela Kale Answers:
From a legal standpoint, your husband can express his desire to be cremated in a will or cremation directive. As his next of kin, you will then have the task of honoring his wishes. Thus, regardless of what your daughter thinks, you can go ahead with plans to have your husband cremated. The moral issue here is different. Upon your husband’s death, your daughter will also be grieving. Death can shatter our security and expose old wounds, but it can also offer opportunities to strengthen ties and bring families together. Whether your daughter has had a good or bad relationship with you and your husband, his death may prompt her to reexamine that bond and draw closer. Though it is a difficult time for you, see if you can open your heart to involve your daughter in the arrangements. Simply giving her a chance to express her wishes may be enough of a sign that you are acknowledging her loss as well as yours, and years from now you may look back and remember this as time of healing, rather than of conflict.