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Our readers asked:

My son’s first communion rehearsal is the same time as his drum lesson, and we pay a lot of money for the drum lesson. Do we still have to go?

Neela Kale Answers:

First communion day is very special for children. After a long period of preparation, they will finally receive the Body and Blood of Christ for the first time. There is often a lot happening that day. Your son may find himself sitting in a different place than your family usually sits and doing some things differently than he usually does at mass. He may have a special role to play, such as walking in the entrance procession or helping to bring up the gifts. And he will be aware that he and the other children are receiving special attention that day. Children, just like adults, can get nervous when things are special or different. That’s why the rehearsal is so important. If he knows ahead of time what is going to happen, he will feel comfortable with it and be more able to focus on what is really important during the first communion mass. The catechists and liturgists in your parish have doubtless done their best to schedule the rehearsals at a time convenient for most of the families of first communicants, and it’s important for your son to be there. So find a way to reschedule the drum lesson – or give yourself permission to skip just one – and make sure, for your son’s sake, that you attend the rehearsal.

The Author : Neela Kale
Neela Kale is a writer and catechetical minister based in the Archdiocese of Portland. She served with the Incarnate Word Missionaries in Mexico and earned a Master of Divinity at the Jesuit School of Theology. Some of her best theological reflection happens on two wheels as she rides her bike around the hills of western Oregon.
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  • Dean

    Wonderful word Neela! Indeed, it is times like these that are so formative to a young person’s faith life. What he sees (and does)now will affect how he approaches the Faith in the future. When this young man sees that his parents put God and Faith ahead of other things (the Communion rehearsal over the drum lesson), he is likely to remember that, even unconsciously in the future. Hopefully that this will impact him in such a way that he will do the same both in his own life and with his own family when he grows up…

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