The vernal equinox, Easter, Passover and the Iranian New Year are approaching. And this column marks the one-year anniversary of What Works. So I want to talk about renewal, fresh starts. (But first, thank you from the depths of my heart for being a part of this joyful process with me this past year.)
So, fresh starts. There's a simple little saying you hear around self-improvement circles all the time: You can start your day over at any time. It's a very useful tool: If you are aggravated and feel like the day is off-track, just pause, take a break for five minutes, walk around the block, say a prayer or meditate, and start again.
It seems a harmless enough little aphorism, but behind it is a huge spiritual principle. We are not controlled by the past. We aren't controlled by the last sentence we said — we can apologize for its harshness, or acknowledge a lie and correct it — and we're not controlled by career choices, moves or other huge life choices we've made — we can look at the present situation and decide what is best now (for ourselves and those around us) and do that.
We often think we are controlled by the past, though, and this is the cause of terrible suffering.