Busted Halo

Most dating and relationships books, columns and shows won’t go near issues of faith. Author, professor and speaker Dr. Christine B. Whelan assumes faith has some role, and tackles even the toughest questions.

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April 15th, 2008

Pure Sex, Pure Love

Blind Date!


Those two words strike fear in the hearts of singles everywhere. And if you’re single past your early 20s, odds are, you’ve been on one.

Blind Dates
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Name (fake name is fine)

I would be willing to go on a blind date.
a) true
b) false

How many blind dates have you been on?
a) 0
b) 1-3
c) 4-6
d) 6-10
e) more than 10

My mother or father has set me up on a blind date.
a) true
b) false

I would insist upon seeing a photo before I agree to go out on a blind date with someone.
a) true
b) false

I would ask about the person’s religious background before I agree to go out on a blind date.
a) true
b) false

Women are more likely to agree to going on a blind date than men.
a) true
b) false

Please share the story of the best blind date you’ve had.
(Short answer)

Please share the story of the worst blind date you’ve had.
(Short answer)

The fear of the blind date is the fear of the unknown: Your friend, your aunt, your next-door neighbor says you should meet so-and-so who is “just perfect” and before you know it, you’re agreeing to coffee or dinner with a total stranger.

It’s also this fear that makes the whole concept so, well, enticing. One of the most popular syndicated dating shows on TV was a show called “Blind Date,” that videotaped a couple on that first fateful date. We loved watching because it was all about possibilities—and, in many cases, all the possibilities for things to go wrong.

Varying Degrees

To be clear, I’m not anti-blind date. In fact, my general advice to singles serious about meeting a great match is to get out there at every opportunity, and that means blind dates galore.

Blind dates are terrifying. But want to make those two little words sound even more terrifying? Add a few more words:

Blind date set up by your mother.

A new book, “Have I Got a Guy for You”: What Really Happens When Mom Fixes You Up, is a compendium of more than two-dozen true stories of well-meaning mismatches. I giggled at the title, but once I picked it up, I couldn’t stop reading. The stories were hilarious.

In one true story, a mother sets up an online dating profile for her daughter and spends months weeding through the men before telling her daughter what she’s done. Or the woman whose mother set her up with a man who (loudly) performed a monologue at Starbucks, or the perfect guy who turned out to be obsessed with his ex-girlfriend…the list goes on and on.

I don’t doubt for a minute that all these terrible dates occurred, but to see them catalogued, printed in black and white, relayed mostly with dead-pan humor, was somehow hopeful: All these others had gone on terrible blind dates, too. We all want the same thing. We all have that little bit of hope that the next date will be different.

This book was written for women—about terrible blind dates that mothers had set up for their daughters. But mothers, friends, coworkers set men up on blind dates, too. So let’s hear about it, from all of you BustedHalo readers, men and women alike.

Click on the Blind Date survey (right) and share your thoughts. I’ll write up your best stories in a Catholic Blind Date Guide coming soon.

The Author : Christine B. Whelan
Dr. Christine B. Whelan is an author, professor and speaker. She and her husband, Peter, and their dictator cats, Chairman Meow and Evita Purron, live in Pittsburgh. Her book "Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women" is available in stores or at the Halo Store.
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