Whom Not to Marry

We’re turning the tables and asking our readers for advice

who-to-marry_insideCalling all Pure Sex, Pure Love readers: I’m teaming up with one of the most famous priests in America to bring you the best dating and relationship advice. Want a piece of the action? Here’s the story:

Last summer Maureen Dowd wrote a column titled “An Ideal Husband,” featuring love advice from Fr. Pat Connor, a 79-year-old Catholic priest based in Bordentown, N.J., who has spent his celibate life mulling what it takes to achieve marital bliss.

The next day, Fr. Pat charmed the world with more advice for young adults (who you should and shouldn’t marry, why you can’t change a man, etc.) on the Today Show. (Watch the segment here.) And in the spring of next year, his book Whom Not To Marry: 50 Years of Wisdom From America’s Most Beloved Priest will be in stores everywhere.

Fr. Pat is a huge fan of the Paulist Fathers and BustedHalo®, and in his research for the book came across the Pure Sex, Pure Love column. He was so intrigued by the honest questions and real-life advice that we discuss here that he asked me to team up with him on his research. And that’s where you come in.

Fr. Pat is looking for your stories — the good, the bad, the ugly and especially the funny.

  • When did you start thinking seriously about getting married?
  • What advice did your Grandmother give you about dating and marriage
  • What advice did your parents give you about meeting Mr./Ms. Right?
  • In previous relationships, when did you realize that s/he wasn’t “the one”?
  • If you’re engaged or married, when did you realize that this was “the one”?
  • What advice would you give to an engaged couple?
  • What advice would you give to a newlywed couple?
  • If you’ve been married for a few years, what advice do you wish you’d received?
  • Any dating and marriage questions for Fr. Pat or me? Send those, too!

Email your stories, with your age and name (it doesn’t have to be your real name — priests are good at keeping secrets, so you can trust in the anonymity here!), to whomnottomarry@gmail.com. Fr. Pat will use some in his forthcoming book, and I’ll answer your questions in my upcoming columns. And the best stories will receive a copy of my new book, Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to True Love.

Here’s to a Valentine’s Day full of love (and good advice!)