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Mike Hayes is the senior editor for the Googling God section at BustedHalo.com.
September 3rd, 2015
Help for figuring out what to do with the rest of your life

Labor Day is upon us, and recent college grads are entering the workforce for the first time. However, far too many young adults are unemployed, unable to find a suitable job, much less a career. For many more, their current jobs don’t exactly match up with their idea of a “dream job,” and scores of others are underemployed (overqualified for their position) but need to work to pay the bills.
In my work as a spiritual director, I often specialize in helping people find meaningful work. I spend time helping young adults find where they believe God may be calling them and then help them take some proactive steps to put those desires into a practical career path. At the very least, I work with young adults to articulate…

July 17th, 2015

I commit the same sins over and over, and I feel bad going to confession when it is most likely I will commit the same sin. How do I say I will not sin again when I feel inside I will sin again? Am I using confession as a excuse to sin knowing I can confess and be forgiven?…
All of us have weaknesses and our sins are consequences of that. No one is perfect, and usually many of our sins are things that continue to trip us up time and time again.
That said, while we have this tendency toward some particular sin, we also need to attempt to get over this. Our efforts here must be true attempts to get past our sin, to get underneath the tendency, and to make a true attempt to stop the behavior.
Again, none of this is easy and therefore we have confession

June 19th, 2015

Question: As an animal lover and someone who has a deep connection to my pets, I’d like to know more about what the Bible says happens to our pets and other animals when they pass away. Does God have a place for them in heaven? Will we see them again?
As a dog lover myself, who is obsessed with my best friend, Haze the Dog, I always picture Haze bounding toward me when I reach the eternal reward, ready to greet me again.
The truth is that we know little about what heaven is like. What we do know is that this is a complete union with the Divine. So any earthly pleasures that we have come to know will be far exceeded by the complete joy that awaits us in heaven.
The Church teaches that we have dominion over the animals of the world…

May 29th, 2015

Jesus’ own words “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” might lead us to think this is so, but the truth expressed here is to suggest that Jesus is both human and divine. The human part of Jesus’ experiences is what many of us feel in times of desolation: abandonment by God. But the Church teaches that even in the most desperate situations God never leaves us alone. Even in the worst cases of torture and death, we believe that God ultimately redeems all suffering.
In Jesus’ cross, we see a God who is unafraid to experience human suffering and human death because God has the power to defeat death and therefore God will do the same for us.
So, while Jesus may have had the human emotional…

May 14th, 2015

The Ascension refers to the day celebrated 40 days after Easter when Catholics celebrate the fact that Jesus returns to God after being with his disciples after the resurrection. It is a central element of our tradition and is included in the creed recited at mass each Sunday. It is also a Holy Day of Obligation and Catholics are required to go to mass on that day.
The scriptural basis for this comes from Acts 1:9-11.
And after He had said these things, He was lifted up while they were looking on, and a cloud received Him out of their sight.
And as they were gazing intently into the sky while He was going, behold, two men in white clothing stood beside them. They also said, “Men of Galilee, why do you stand looking into…

April 21st, 2015

In the Second Chapter of John’s Gospel we read about the Wedding Feast at Cana. Mary approaches Jesus and asks him to do something about the fact that they have run out of wine. Jesus responds: “Woman, how does this concern me?”
Women in Jewish culture at the time were viewed as property and as unreliable witnesses. Men addressing women as “woman” was common, especially if a woman vexed a man — as seems to be the case here. Mary’s confidence in Jesus (“Do whatever he tells you”) should be read as an “eye-roll,” and it guilts Jesus into performing a miracle at his mother’s request.
While this was a somewhat derogatory term to call his mother,…

April 13th, 2015

Question: Did Pope Francis really say that those who do not believe in God can be saved, and that Atheists can also be saved?
Yes. Pope Francis said that not long ago:
“The Lord has redeemed all of us, all of us, with the Blood of Christ: all of us, not just Catholics. Everyone! ‘Father, the atheists?’ Even the atheists. Everyone! And this Blood makes us children of God of the first class. We are created children in the likeness of God and the Blood of Christ has redeemed us all. And we all have a duty to do good. And this commandment for everyone to do good, I think, is a beautiful path towards peace. If we, each doing our own part, if we do good to others, if we meet there, doing good, and we go slowly, gently,…

April 8th, 2015

Question: My daughter died a couple weeks ago from cancer and before she died she saw our dead dog. Did he really come for her? Are they with me now, and will I see them again when I get to heaven and are they well now?
First of all, please know of our condolences to you and your family on the death of your daughter.
Secondly, in answer to the first part of your question, we don’t really know what ways we are welcomed by those gone before us into the heavenly kingdom. Is it possible that doggy came to welcome her? Certainly. All things are possible with God and in the unconditional love that pets often give to their human friends, I could see this being very appropriate.
In reference to the rest of your question, we can wholeheartedly…

March 30th, 2015

Some parishes, in an attempt to reenact the Last Supper (traditionally defined as a Passover supper) hold a seder meal for their parishioners. This recently has been the subject of much controversy. There’s a great article discussing this here.
In short, we should note the following:
1) A seder is not for Christians. Just as a Christmas tree is not for Jewish people. The use of a Hanukkah Bush is a grave misnomer according to the rabbis in my local community. As Christians, we should hold Jewish rituals in the highest esteem and moreover, not attempt to Christianize them. This may in fact be looked upon as anti-Semitic when we do so.
2) The modern seder did not begin until 70 AD, after the destruction of the temple.…

March 27th, 2015

Technically speaking, Catholics are firstly required to fast on Good Friday, meaning to eat only one full meal for the day and then to merely sustain themselves for the rest of the day — meaning two smaller meals that do not equal the one large meal.
To your question, Catholics are also required to abstain from eating meat on both Good Friday and each Friday in Lent (as well as Ash Wednesday). Fish is used as a substitute for meat-based meals. But of course with vegetarian diets abound in today’s day and age there are many other solutions besides fish.
Historically, since about the second century of Christianity, Christians abstained from meat on Friday as a kind of sacrifice and reminder that acknowledged…

March 25th, 2015

Question: I have a close friend. We spend so much time together, we also sleep in the same bed — no funny business. Is it a sin to sleep in the same bed and or house?
While the act of mere sleeping is not sinful in and of itself, this situation certainly lies in the danger zone of Catholic teaching. We call this the “near occasion of sin.” By sleeping in the same bed you are running the risk of the situation getting out of control. Perhaps you become more attracted to one another over time or more curious and attempt to take things a bit further. Perhaps you begin to notice your friend’s body more intimately and it begins to tempt you? Perhaps he/she has no feelings for you, but you begin to develop them…

March 11th, 2015

Q: I have a rather odd question regarding fasting during Lent while dealing with an eating disorder. Fasting (not eating) is very easy, yet could do me more harm than good. I want to practice according to the Church’s teaching, yet I want to stay healthy. What are your thoughts?
Fasting is a means of self-denial used as a penance for sins throughout the season of Lent. But good health takes precedence over any ecclesiastical law. For this reason the Bishops have noted that those over 60 and those under 14 do not have to fast. Those under the age might miss the point and those over the age are in need of nourishment and place themselves in danger if they begin a fast, especially those not in good health.
The United States…

February 27th, 2015

There are a bunch of possibilities here. The first is to take advantage of times when these issues naturally come up. So, you might organize a special event for Earth Day or bake and share Christmas cookies made with fair trade chocolate…

February 25th, 2015

Please, first of all, accept our deepest condolences. Suicide is always tough for those who are left behind, so please know that we are keeping you and your family in prayer.
Catholics trust in the mercy of God. That is THE central element of our faith and Pope Francis has taken great strides to make sure that it is preached far and wide to the faithful. What we know about suicide from a psychological perspective today, is that it is often not a free choice, most often as a result of depression or other mental illness.
Then we add to our knowledge, what we consider sinful behavior. For something to be a sin, a person must choose to do this sin freely. They must be in control of their own actions. If they are not, then their actions…

January 14th, 2015

Two weeks into the New Year and your resolutions — if you made any — have either started you on a path to self-improvement or left you feeling not quite up to the challenge. Invariably, some people will make a New Year’s resolution to pray more often (or at all!), and the effort comes to naught when they realize they don’t really know how to pray, or, perhaps, even what prayer is. So, why not get some help?
We often hire personal trainers, financial advisors, even dating consultants, to meet our goals. Why not find someone to assist us with our personal relationship with God? We call that person a spiritual director — someone specially trained in the art of spiritual direction.
Essentially, a…

January 9th, 2015

Question: What does God mean, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you?”…
This comes from the opening lines of the Book of Jeremiah in the Old Testament. This verse (Jeremiah 1:5) and the ones that follow are a call to leadership for the under-confident Jeremiah. Essentially, God is saying that he has given Jeremiah many gifts, and he doesn’t need to be afraid. God knows Jeremiah; he was born for the role that is being prescribed for him.
Jeremiah goes on to prophesize the fall of Judah to Babylon and that many of Judah’s people will be captives in a foreign land. So, the job of being a prophet was not an easy one. Often in our lives, we are called to difficult

November 19th, 2014

In this season of giving, I have been reflecting on how thankful I am for the inspiration that Pope Francis has given me, especially in the past few months. While this space could be filled with dozens of examples, I whittled my list down to these grace-filled moments.

Emphasizing mercy
Francis continues to be “The Pope of Mercy.” In October, during a meeting with representatives of the International Association of Penal Law, Pope Francis said: “It is impossible to imagine that states today cannot make use of another means than capital punishment to defend peoples’ lives from an unjust aggressor.”
Then he went one step further: “Life imprisonment is a hidden death penalty.”
The pope…

November 12th, 2014

Q: I have a question about forgiveness. I have a coworker that really annoys me – to put it mildly. I have been trying to be more forgiving of the people with which I work, but this one guy I have not forgiven for anything yet. It is hard for me to do it. He has such a hyper-critical, superior, selfish, angry, and exasperating attitude that I am at the point where just want to avoid him – or publicly dress him down – or maybe crack him over the head. When he thought I was not around my desk today, I caught him mocking me. Now, I really do not want to forgive him. I know I cannot avoid him indefinitely. I know I should not take him down either verbally or physically. I know forgiving him is what I should do. How do I prepare and…

October 15th, 2014
Halftime at the Synod brings with it an “earthquake” regarding the Church’s attitude toward the LGBT community.

As the extraordinary Synod of Bishops shared a midpoint document summarizing dis-cussions so far, we should remind ourselves that the Synod is far from over. In fact, there will be another session next year when Pope Francis will issue his own teachings on the subject of family. Nonetheless, several issues raised in the conversations so far should cause us to sit up and pay attention.
#1 New Attitude Toward the LGBT Community… — While the Synod upholds Catholic teaching that marriage is between a man and a woman, there was a remarkable change in tone toward gay couples that the acclaimed Vaticanologist John Thavis called “an earthquake.” The document states first and foremost that “homosexuals have

October 7th, 2014

An excellent question! The incarnation of Jesus is not bound by human biology. So we are talking about a supernatural event that we are trying to limit by our own natural biology.
That said, Jesus was indeed both human and divine. So it is not important to emphasize the biological necessity of a male donor, but rather the emphasis is on the divine one entering into humanity through our human birth to a woman. Does this happen by a male sperm uniting with a female egg. Almost certainly, but not necessarily. It is a true mystery of our faith with regards to “how” this all happened scientifically. The faith element of this event is what we need to emphasize here. The point of the story is that God entered into our…

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