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May 27th, 2009
Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no

I always considered myself honest, and I had a lot of pride attached to that. I had a boss once who would stare you in the eye and just flat-out lie — I mean on the level of “The sky is green.” — daring you to challenge him. No one would, and we’d move forward as a company based on the sky being green. I was never that kind of liar.
As a teenager, when my friends snuck out at night or created cover stories of sleepovers and studying, I simply disobeyed my parents and accepted the consequences.
But there are other kinds of lies.
Let’s say you invited me to a dinner party and I had no intention of going. Odds are I’d say, “I’ll try to make it.” You’d get enough…

May 27th, 2009
Thirtysomething, single and looking for affirmation

I attend church in a left-leaning parish that specializes in outreach services to students at the local university. It succeeds so well that every Sunday night at 7 p.m., the place turns into Studio 54 — a magnet for coltish, confident, overachieving young Catholics who glow as though someone tossed them into a swimming pool filled with chrism.
Or so it seemed to me two and a half years ago, when I began to attend catechism classes offered through the parish’s RCIA program. I was a thirty-four-year-old bachelor and grad school dropout. Since leaving the academic life, I’d bounced from one office job to the next. My own glow had long since faded.
But, in church, the promise of renewal hung in the very…

May 25th, 2009
The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding Episode 6

Episode #6 — Why Can’t We Get Married To The Beatles?


NEXT WEEK: Can we have an interfaith wedding?

Want to see more? Watch other episodes of “The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding” here.

Send us your questions!
We encourage you to email us questions, or record a short video with your question and send it to us. If we use your video in a future episode, we will give you a $25 Amazon gift certificate. Send in your questions to weddings@bustedhalo.com and hear Dr. Christine Whelan, author of the Pure Sex, Pure Love… column go head to head with Father Eric Andrews, a Paulist priest with more than 15 years of wedding experience as they debate your questions: Why can’t you get

May 22nd, 2009
...that won't require a bailout

The unofficial start of summer usually begins with barbecues, a long weekend away, visiting relatives, or heading to a beach town to visit your summer share cottage. Whatever your choice has been in the past, this year’s dreadful economy is bound to make at least some, if not most, of us reevaluate our summer vacation plans.
Even if financial concerns aren’t causing you to take a second look at vacation plans, you may be tired of the same old, same old. So Busted Halo decided to take a look at 5 possible vacations — ranging from lavish steals for the budget conscious, to family friendly activities, to serving those in need.

Volunteer Vacations
Want to experience a new culture at a low cost and simultaneously…

May 20th, 2009
Uproar over this summer action flick is wasted breath

In the gospel according to Ron Howard, absolutely everything is ominous when it’s undertaken at the Vatican. Whether it’s a member of the curia strolling down a dark hallway of the Holy See, or somebody steeping tea in the papal breakfast nook, the director who has brought Dan Brown’s novels to the cineplex loads down the moment with portent and peril. It’s a world in which you can’t help but imagine that even the gift shops are flooded with gloomy light.
Howard’s first adaptation of a Brown bestseller, The DaVinci Code, was a purgatorial mess. His second stab, Angels and Demons, ratchets up the excitement, cuts back on some of DaVinci…‘s convoluted anti-Catholicism,

May 19th, 2009
The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding Episode 5

Episode #5 — How can we keep our wedding simple?

NEXT WEEK: Why can’t we get married to The Beatles?
Want to see more? Watch other episodes of “The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding” here.

Some links to discount wedding gowns
From Christine… “Here’s a link to a great place called VOWS in Newton, MA that has lots of discounted wedding gowns — I looked there myself, actually, and I can tell you there are wonderful dresses: www.bridepower.com… as of my writing this, there are 69 dresses under $500. There are also some wedding dresses on sale at jcrew.com for under $200 as well. Target did a great line of wedding dresses last year, but discontinued

May 18th, 2009
Iraqi refugee artists find a home in a Hell's Kitchen church

The picture shows the rough wear of its many journeys. A cheap canvas tacked to a wall then tightly rolled and unfurled again somewhere else. The rolling and unrolling repeated a dozen times as its author fled her home, then her neighborhood, then her city, finally her nation. It’s the art of a migrant now. A person without a country. A refugee.
“Freedom and Beauty: The Art of Iraqi Refugees,” on exhibit daily through May 28th at the Church of St. Paul the Apostle on West 59th Street in Manhattan, is an attempt to link American viewers and Iraqi artists. You should go see it. That canvas, rolled and unrolled with the wandering of a displaced person, is like a message stuffed in a bottle and tossed to…

May 17th, 2009
Daniel Smith on his numerous musical projects, former bandmate Sufjan Stevens and being a Christian artist who doesn’t connect with Christian culture

Though he’d never want to take credit for it, the extent to which there is a Christian presence in indie rock — a scene generally suspicious of and cynical toward expressions of faith — is largely due to the presence of Daniel Smith. More than any other artist in the post-punk era, he has redefined what it means to camp out at the idiosyncratic crossroads of faith and art. On the avant-garde edges of both cultures, his series of visionary albums have proved he is beholden to neither. With Trying Hartz, a two-disc retrospective spanning the first ten years of his career, Smith offers one-stop shopping for the curious and confounded.
With 1994′s A Prayer for Every Hour…, a series of songs designed to accompany

May 14th, 2009
DVR alert for Fr. Dave on the History Channel!

Our own Father Dave Dwyer, CSP, will appear in a show on the History Channel about the new movie Angels & Demons. It will air on Saturday, May 16th at 8 p.m. Eastern and Pacific time (7 p.m. Central; 6 p.m. Mountain). Check your local listings for channel number and to confirm the time. The 2-hour documentary, Angels & Demons Decoded…, will re-air on Sunday, May 17th at 12 midnight Eastern/Pacific, and again on Sunday, May 24th at 4 p.m. Eastern/Pacific. The show also features director Ron Howard and star Tom Hanks. Fr. Dave appears several times throughout the show.

May 13th, 2009
Notre Dame, Obama and the Church in Culture

For some it was the shot heard round the world. When Cardinal Francis George got up to preach on a cold Saturday evening more than a decade ago his message was even more bracing than the Chicago weather outside Old St. Pat’s church. “Liberal Catholicism is an exhausted project” he said. “Essentially a critique, even a necessary critique at one point in our history, it is now parasitical on a substance that no longer exists. It has shown itself unable to pass on the faith in its integrity and is inadequate, therefore, in fostering the joyful self-surrender called for in Christian marriage, in consecrated life, in ordained priesthood.”
It was a sermon that stung many in the congregation…

May 12th, 2009
From Malcolm Gladwell to St. Ignatius, the science and spirituality of how we decide

Some call it intuition. Divine insight. Animal instinct. God’s Will. Whatever we label this natural ability to tune in to a deeper inner voice, the question remains: How do we develop discernment in the middle of chaos and indecision?
He may not call it the voice of God, but according to pop-sociologist Malcolm Gladwell, best selling author of The Tipping Point, relying on your first gut reaction is a good way to gamble when it comes to making hard decisions.
In his follow-up book about how we make decisions, Blink…, Gladwell looks at a team of firefighters interviewed about their decision-making process during moments of emergency. He concludes that when these professionals make decisions — like evacuating

May 11th, 2009
It's hard to be spiritually fit when you're running on fumes

I was up late but had agreed to an early brunch with friends, so after about five hours of sleep I’m on my way to meet people I love and I am feeling decidedly unloving. In the bustle of the train, I can feel myself getting irritated by every little thing. I don’t love the world right now. Which is another way of saying I’m not in conscious contact with God.
Once, in a discussion group, a minister asked the Dalai Lama how he could be more effective spiritually; the Dalai Lama smiled and said, “Get more sleep.” (He reportedly gets eight to nine hours each night.)
Though few people go to bed early, most agree it’s a good idea. But when it comes to getting enough… sleep, it seems like our nation’s

May 8th, 2009
A Catholic perspective on religious tattoos

Mark your calendars: We are have moved into one of those rare periods where being Jewish — throughout history a fairly exciting state of existence — is also fun. In her recent article, “Tattooed Jews: a new generation expresses its Jewishness in controversial ways,” Monica Rozenfeld reports that God’s original chosen people — a group that included my own father — has discovered the world of devotional body art. What a rich and varied world it is. Jacob wrestling God’s angel, the children of Israel avenging Dinah, even Maimonides and Nachmanides in a tug-of-war over a loaf of challah — any of these images might serve as a badge of religious pride to turn the heads of the nations.…

May 7th, 2009
The star of Irena's Vow on Broadway visits the Busted Halo show on Sirius XM Radio

[Use the audio player above to listen to this interview.]
Tony- and Emmy-nominated actress Tovah Feldshuh is well known for her recurring role as Danielle Melnik on TV’s Law & Order, but when she visited the Busted Halo Radio Show on Sirius XM recently, it was to talk about her starring role in the new Broadway play Irena’s Vow at the Walter Kerr Theater. Irena’s Vow… is the uplifting true story of a courageous World War II heroine, a young Polish Catholic woman who helped a dozen Jews survive the Holocaust. The show recently ended a record-breaking sold out engagement off-Broadway; and its move to Broadway marks Tovah Feldshuh’s first appearance to the Broadway stage since she played

May 3rd, 2009
Reconsidering a woman's "wifely duty"

A few weeks ago, a friend sent me a column titled “Women need to say yes to sex.” I had my back up immediately — but kept reading. Bettina Arndt, author of The Sex Diaries…, begins the piece with this opening salvo: “What ever happened to wifely duty?”
Got your attention now? Yep, in any marriage, negotiations about sex cut to the heart of power dynamics, trust issues and emotional intimacy. And these are very sensitive subjects. (And no, I won’t be offended if you just click through to read her piece first and then come back to mine. It’s provocative.)
Arndt argues that “the assumption that women need to want sex to enjoy it has proved a really damaging sexual idea, one

April 29th, 2009
Part 3 - Practicing What they Preach

There are more slaves today than at any other point in human history.
— E. Benjamin Skinner, A Crime So Monstrous…
For most of us, it’s difficult to imagine that in 2009 there are more than 27 million people, most of them women and children, being held against their will. Many are abused or carried across international borders and exploited as servants, forced prostitutes or laborers. Many of them never make it out. If they do, it’s not unusual that they no longer possess their sense of humanness or the will to continue living.
Busted Halo’s three-part series on modern-day slavery and human trafficking aims not only to raise consciousness and concern about these two incredibly important human

April 27th, 2009
The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding Episode 4

Episode #4 — What Does a Celibate Priest Know About Sex?

Want to see more?
Watch other episodes of “The Princess, The Priest and the War for the Perfect Wedding” here.

Send us your questions!
We encourage you to email us questions, or record a short video with your question and send it to us. If we use your video in a future episode, we will give you a $25 Amazon gift certificate. Send in your questions to weddings@bustedhalo.com and hear Dr. Christine Whelan, author of the Pure Sex, Pure Love… column go head to head with Father Eric Andrews, a Paulist priest with more than 15 years of wedding experience as they debate your questions: Why can’t you get married on the beach? Why is the priest being such

April 24th, 2009
How the global economic downturn is affecting La Antigua

In early February, I traveled to Guatemala in hopes of doing some service work while brushing up on my Spanish. But as I describe in this report, I ended up learning a lot more than a language over the course of my two week adventure.…

April 22nd, 2009
Using the economic downturn to reevaluate your life's choices

Nancy’s whole career has been in pharmaceutical communications. After watching round after round of layoffs at her firm over the past two years, her ticket finally came up in February. She went from a high level, lucrative management position to unemployment overnight. Stories like this are playing out across the country by the thousands. Good skilled workers lose their jobs and find strong competition for lesser positions. Seemingly secure financial futures based on real estate and stock investments disappear overnight, leaving uncertainty and worry.
But listen to Nancy:
“Ironically, this may be one of the greatest gifts I have received in my life — not because unemployment is a gift but…

April 22nd, 2009
Here's a chance to win the national advice columnist's new memoir, The Mighty Queens of Freeville!

Ann Landers’ successor shares the secrets of where she finds moral guidance and why a barbecue pit is the perfect place to find God
Interview and introduction by Kristine Gasbarre
The response to our Busted: Amy Dickinson article was so great we decided to be equally great and give our readers the chance to win her new memoir The Mighty Queens of Freeville. In fact, we are giving away THREE whole copies of the book. All you have to do is tell us what makes us so great in 1,000 words or less… or, you can just submit your name, email and shipping address so that we can pick a winner and send them this fantastic new memoir that critics are calling “Buoyant and bright” and “Great American storytelling…

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