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Neela Kale Answers:
Situation: My friend had a severe allergic reaction at a party. His wife was embarrassed by it and suggested we all keep eating and drinking. A nurse tended to his needs but he wouldn’t go to the ER or even urgent care. I was surprised at how his wife was more concerned about the party and the guests than her husband’s health. Do I address this with him?
This sounds like a good moment to check in with your friend. Ask how he is recovering and see if he needs anything. Then inquire, gently, about what happened at the party. There may be more to the story. Perhaps the reaction which seemed severe to an outside observer was not actually that serious. Your friend and his wife, presumably experienced with his medical condition, would know when a visit to the ER is truly warranted. Another possibility is that dealing with a serious allergy is stressful for the relationship, and he could use a supportive friend. Don’t begin the conversation assuming the worst. Remind your friend that you are happy to be a listening ear and stay open to providing the support that he needs.